Carry The Fire

A 28-Day Grief Retreat

Heal Your Grief. Transcend Your Loss

Are you feeling lost, abandoned and confused?

Are you longing for clarity and direction through your darkness?

Are you yearning for comfort and calm amidst your grief storms?

Are you seeking meaning and purpose within your loss?

Are you searching for a pathway to move forward in your life?

 

“A person dies two deaths: once when their body dies and another when their story dies. Although there is nothing we can do about physical death. We are the guardians of their story. We can defy death. We do this when we Carry The Fire.”

-Rabbi Dr. Baruch HaLevi

No matter where you are on the journey through grief, whether it’s been a week, a year, or a decade, you will never move on from your grief. However, you can move forward through it…

Discovering deeper meaning in your life…

Realizing a greater purpose for your life…

Living more fully…

Loving more fiercely…

Leaving behind the darkness and transcending your loss as you learn to carry your loved one’s fire, forward!

 

What Is Carry The Fire?

Carry The Fire is a 28-day multi-media grief program, or as we like to think of it, “a grief retreat.”

It will nurture you in healing through your grief, empower you in discovering purpose within your loss, and inspire you to transform your darkness into light. 

It is for anyone, at any point after a loss.

One week, one month, one year, one decade…  

There is simply never a wrong time to mourn. 

It is never too late to grieve. 

Wherever you are on your journey, now is the perfect time to nurture yourself, heal your heart, and begin to carry the fire. 

“I love this program! It’s healing. It’s spiritual. It’s practical! And it’s exactly what I needed after my dad died. Life was so busy. Being a professional, wife and mother, there where so many demands made upon me that I just didn’t make the time to grieve as I wanted and needed. However, years later, doing this program and exploring my grief over 28 days (less than an hour a day) has been so nurturing and healing. It’s exactly what I needed and why I recommend it to my clients, my friends and anyone I know who needs a grief retreat!”

— Rebecca Rosen, Grieving her Dad

Healing Pathways

 

Baruch and Ariela are students of numerous religious, spiritual, healing and therapeutic traditions and schools. This program is comfortable for anyone of any religious tradition, or spiritual inclination, secular or Atheist.

Carry The Fire is simply the best practice from their studies, practice, professional and personal experience, distilled and synthesized into this elegant program.

Carry The Fire offers a holistic approach to grief, drawing upon numerous spiritual, religious, therapeutic and healing modalities, traditions and pathways, including:

  • Ancient Wisdom

    Drawing upon Kabbalah, Buddhism, Catholic mysticism, and Shamanism, you will be inspired by tried and true grief wisdom.

  • Therapeutic Guidance

    Grounded in Logotherapy (meaning-centered therapy created by Dr. Viktor Frankl, author of “Man’s Search For Meaning”) you will discover meaning in your loss and direction through your grief.

  • Spiritual Practice

    Engaging in a variety of spiritual practices including: kabbalistic rituals, mindfulness-meditation, yoga, and guided healing visualizations, you will discover healing from within yourself.

  • Self-Development Tools

    Utilizing creative and practical techniques drawn from various wisdom traditions, ancient and modern, you will have the tools you need to make measurable and impactful changes in your life.

Soothing Amidst The Grief Storm

“When my mom died tragically I didn’t know what to do or where to go. Thankfully I found my way to Soul Centered, and through a combination of Ariela’s healing and Baruch’s guidance, I not only survived those initial, turbulent soul storm’s, but have discovered so much meaning, purpose and blessing along the way. With this addition the Carry The Fire Grief Retreat, I now have so many of those tools and teachings at my fingertips and turn to them daily to help me continue my journey through grief, find comfort during the lonely nights of sorrow, and a truly soul soothing refuge when the storms descend now and again.”

— Samantha Rose, Carrying Her Mother's Fire

 

How It Works…

 

Carry The Fire is designed to be an immersive experience, utilized over the course of 28 days.

Each day contains insightful and inspirational reading and videos, expanded through daily assignments, spiritual healing practices, and practical tools to use throughout your day.

These engaging, guided activities can be completed in as little as 30 minutes.

  • Sparks In The Dark

    Excerpts from “Sparks Seekers: Mourning with Meaning; Living with Light,” Baruch’s book

  • Write Through Grief

    Writing exercises to gently guide you in exploring grief through journaling and expressing your feelings

  • Breathe Through Grief

    Breathing exercises, guided meditations and visualizations to gently guide you through grief and heal

  • Move Through Grief

    Activities to engage your body, such as gentle yoga and walking to help you move through your grief

  • Respond Through Grief

    Numerous activities to incorporate into your day to help learn how to respond to your grief

Breathe. Breathe. Breathe.

“This has been a trying year for me, having lost far too many friends. To make matters worse, during this time of COVID, I, like so many others, was not able to attend the funerals, pay my respects or formally grieve. That is why the Carry The Fire Grief Retreat has been so invaluable to me, and I’m sure to countless others as well.”

— Jan Goldstein, Carrying Her Friends Fire

The Mystical Meaning of 28

The inspiration behind 28 days comes from the ancient, kabbalistic practice of immersing oneself within their grief during the first month after the death of a loved one. Spiritually, the lunar month (28 days) symbolizes a time of transformation. After all, every month the moon is “born,” “dies” and is re-born, again and again.

The moon is tied to the menstrual cycle, also a journey of life, death, and rebirth. It is responsible for the tide and rhythm of the waves, much like grief, ebbing and flowing, pulsating one day and calm the next.

On so many levels, we make this journey, waning and waxing through darkness and light, ebbing and flowing through our grief, and 28 days symbolizes both our recognition of and commitment to this profound journey.

Lastly, in Kabbalah, 28 is numerologically tied to the Hebrew word for strength. When we are weary, we need to rest. When we are broken, we need to heal. When our loved one dies, we need both rest and healing. Carry The Fire is designed to help you regain your mental, emotional and spiritual strength.

Calm. Comfort. Clarity.

Lost. Overwhelmed. Confused. Shattered. This is how I felt after I lost a loved one. I didn’t know which way to go or how to proceed in my life. I simply was stuck, knew I needed guidance, but was not ready for a heavy lift, a long term commitment or complicated program. That’s when I found Baruch and Carry The Fire.

— Connie O'connor, Carrying Her Loved One's Fire

Results You Can Expect

 
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Hope

Anyone who has lost a loved one knows that when the darkness descends, hope dies with our loved one. When you learn to Carry The Fire you will reclaim a sense of certainty in your life, faith that your journey has meaning, and hope that light will one day return to your life.

 
 
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Clarity

When death’s darkness descends we feel overwhelmed, confused and lost by our loss. When you learn to Carry The Fire you will regain a sense of clarity of where to place your foot to take the next step; step by step you will slowly and clearly walk your way back into your life.

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Healing

As we descend into death’s darkness, we are shattered in so many ways. Body, mind, emotion and spirit are broken, and we are in deep need of healing. When you learn to Carry The Fire you will cultivate the tools you need to begin to feel your grief, process your emotions and move through your darkness. As you feel, you heal and eventually you will heal aspects of your life. 

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Empowerment

Death strips us not only of our loved one, but of our feeling of control, competence and power. When you learn to Carry The Fire you begin to steadily and increasingly take back your power – reclaiming the power of your choice to live more fully and love more fiercely as you move forward in your life.

 
 
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Purpose

When we are lost within our loss, we don’t know what to do or which way to go. When we learn to Carry The Fire, we discover that within our loss there is so much to be found. Finding the light within the darkness and sharing it with the world becomes a source of motivation that carries us forward with purpose and inspiration.

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Inspired

When our loved one dies, we literally lose our breath, and figuratively lose our spirit. When we learn to Carry The Fire, we take back our ability to breathe (respire), return to our spirit and move forward in-spirit; inspired and breathing easier with our loved one in our heart and by our side.

 

Carry The Fire will not magically make your suffering go away. 

However, in the words of Dr. Viktor Frankl, “In some ways suffering ceases to be suffering at the moment it finds a meaning.”

What this program can do is offer you the opportunity to discover deeper meaning, realize a greater purpose, and experience profound inspiration within the depths of your darkness after the death of your loved one. 

There are sparks waiting to be discovered in the dark. Together we will find them, fan them into a flame and that flame into a fire as you learn to carry the fire, not in spite of your loss, because of it. You Carry The Fire for your loved one, for yourself, for the living and for those who are waiting for you, watching you and learning from you. One day they will walk in your footsteps, carry your fire as they pass the fire down from generation to generation.

 

COST

$199

You’ll get immediate access to the program after you complete your purchase.

FAQ’s

Exactly How Does The Program Work?

When you register for the Carry The Fire 28-Day Grief Retreat you will receive an introductory email with a welcome and instructional video, along with your first day’s activity. The next day you will receive your first unit, consisting of all the material you will need for three days. Thereafter you’ll receive a new unit packet of videos and assignments every three days (9 units in total). Each day consists of an introductory video and various assignments to support you on your journey through grief.

Does Carry The Fire Have To Be Completed Over 28 Days?

There are very few absolutes when it comes to grief, and certainly, there is no one-size-fits-all time frame (as you will explore in the program). It is your grief. It is your journey. It is your time frame. Carry The Fire is a program to nurture and support you through your grief, and you can certainly extend this program, engaging it every two or three days over the course of two or three months. However, it is our experience that containing it within a 28 day period is most impactful, even if it means doing less each day.

Do I have to do all of the day’s activities?

After a loss, the last thing you need is another obligation or burden. Carry The Fire should certainly not be one of them. Indeed, there are multiple options for you to engage on any given day, however, they should be thought of not as “have-to’s,” rather, they are “get-to’s.” You get to do what you want, whichever speaks to you that day. Maybe you watch the video and reflect upon that day’s theme and call it a day. Perhaps you choose to follow the journaling prompts, or just want to be guided in a healing meditation. Think of it as a “choose your own adventure.” This program provides you choices, so choose whatever you feel will bring you the guidance you need and comfort you deserve!

Can I Break The Day’s Activities Up?

Carry The Fire can be engaged in one sitting or divided up during the course of the day. Some people choose to watch that day’s video in the morning and to engage the activities in the evening. Others have shared they like to watch the video and journal in the morning, while doing the meditations or other bonus activities upon returning from work, or after the kids are in bed. Some have shared they save the bonus activities, such as yoga, for the weekends. There is simply no right way, or wrong way to grieve. All that matters is you do in whatever way works for you.

Can I do this with a friend, or in a small group?

Yes! Carry The Fire is perfectly suited to be done with a friend, partner or family member. It is crucial we feel supported and have a sense of connection when going through grief. The more support we have the better. Having someone engage this program and do this work with us can be deeply meaningful.

Soul Centered offers periodic, small group experiences, as well as providing small group opportunities to organizations such as: hospice, churches, synagogues, grief centers, funeral homes, family and social welfare organizations, and many more.

If you are interested in participating in a Soul Centered small group, or engaging Soul Centered to provide a group experience to your constituents, please contact us at: info@mysoulcentered.org

What happens after I purchase Carry The Fire?

Upon purchasing Carry The Fire you will be redirected to a third-party site called, “Thinkific,” where you will have to sign up for a new account (if you don’t have one already). This simply requires choosing a username and password, at which point you will have immediate access to all 28 days of the program. Again, you can choose to do the program at your own pace, however, you will also receive emails every three days (9 units) to support you, offer you some bonus insights and inspire you along your journey.

What is the refund policy?

Please note, all purchases are final. We are always available and willing to address any questions, thoughts or concerns you may have about this program or any of our Soul Centered offerings.

Is this program in lieu of professional medical support or clinical counseling?

We are not, nor are we holding ourselves out to be a doctor/physician, nurse, physician’s assistant, or any other medical professional (“Medical Provider”). Before participating in this program, or any other of our programs, we recommend that you consult with a physician or other Medical and Mental Health Provider if you have any concerns or questions about your physical or mental health.

Are the results described on the website guaranteed?

Although we have seen this program provide direction, support and guidance for participants, the results described on this site are in no way a guarantee. Every person is unique, and every grief journey is specific to that person alone. There are no guarantees as to the specific outcome or results you can expect from using this program.

Defying Death

“During the past few years I have lost more friends and family members than I care to count. On top of the heartache I have felt for each and everyone of them, I, like everyone else, have had to do so with the added suffering of the loneliness of quarantine during this time of COVID. In the past I might have turned to my synagogue or friends or even colleagues for support. However, that has not been an option, but thank goodness I found Baruch and Ariela in this truly transformational program they have created.

Not only did I get the comfort, clarity and support I needed from this program, I also received something far, far beyond what I ever imagined possible – I found an entirely new way of thinking about the devastating reality of death. I discovered that I am not powerless. I have a say, not over whether or not my loved one’s died physically, but whether or not they die a second death when their story dies.

I will not let their story die. I will live for them. I will guard their story. I will carry their fire. That is not only hopeful, but it’s a life purpose and with this purpose I will never be the same!!!”

— Tony Daniels, Carrying His Friends' Fire